Stories and Essays

Rachel Dolezal’s New Memoir ‘In Full Color’ Is Full Of Everything But Color

April 3, 2017

 
I’ll admit that at first I was fascinated, appalled, curious, infuriated, and challenged when Rachel Dolezal’s story emerged in 2015. Her claims of being ‘transracial’ along with her adamant claim of Blackness added an avalanche of questions to preexisting dialogues on race, culture, and transgender discussions. And it seemed like because of Rachel’s rise in culture consciousness all of a sudden mainstream media was asking complex questions about race, claiming identity, and crossing color lines. [READ MORE] 

 


 

 On Marriage, Being Gay and Asking Your Born-Again Parents for Their Blessing

March 30, 2017

 
I was never the kind of girl who daydreamed about her perfect wedding day — the perfect white dress, the perfect location . . . the perfect man. Hell, I wasn’t even the kind of girl who thought about getting married period. Marriage was an antiquated tradition that I never wanted to be a part of.
 
If I thought about marriage at all, it was only to contemplate what it would feel like to love someone so much that you willingly want to devote your entire being — your entire life — to that one person. I had never loved someone that much and wasn’t even sure if I believed that kind of love existed. [READ MORE]
 


 

Thank you RuPaul: It’s Not Just About Bachelorette Parties 

March 30, 2017

 
When RuPaul said “Check yourself before your wreck yourself” after being asked his opinion about bachelorette parties at gay bars on The Dinner Party Download podcast, many of us in the LGBTQ community applauded him for saying something that we, at one time or another, have thought ourselves. But heterosexual women weren’t so amused. And many of them expressed that the main reason they go to gay bars is because it’s safe — and the only place they don’t get groped or hit on by heterosexual men.
 
But RuPaul wasn’t necessarily referring to the one or two straight women on the dance floor any given Friday or Saturday night. He was referring to the gaggle of loud and obnoxious women with their blinking sashes and penis pops, who bust through the doors of our bars like they own it and we owe them something. Who scream from the audience at the drag queens on stage yelling “I’M GETTING MARRIED!!” or worse scream-talking and disrespecting the performer onstage. Those are the straight girls RuPaul was referring to. [READ MORE]
 


 

Alternative Fact: Feminists Should Support Tomi Lahren

March 28, 2017

 
In case you haven’t heard, conservative political commentator Tomi Lahren was ‘permanently banned’ (read: fired) from her job at The Blaze for — of all things — voicing her honest opinion about abortion on The View. The irony is not lost on any of us that the conservative millennial media darling’s fall from grace was that she came out as pro-choice, and for conservatives that meant that she was no longer trustworthy or truthful.
 
And Tomi’s firing has led to a Sophie’s Choice for some feminists who are now asking themselves and others, “Should we, as ‘good’ feminists, (now) be supportive of Tomi?” Tomi, of course, is not the first female ‘celebrity’ figure to cause feminists to ponder questions of inclusivity. [READ MORE]
 


 

The Message of the Oscar’s

 

March 3, 2017

If you really want to understand what’s going on in our world, both globally and within our LGBTQIA community, you can learn all you need to from last Sunday night’s Oscars awards show. And I don’t just mean the fiasco that happened when Warren Beatty and Faye Dunaway pulled a Steve Harvey and called out the wrong name for the winner in the Best Picture category. No, I’m talking about the entire show from, start to finish.

Start with the moment all the winners had announced and everyone was congratulating the Oscars for being “so inclusive” this year — this one year, out of 89 years. That’s only 1.12 percent, so I think I’ll hold off till the 90th year before I start handing out snaps for the Oscars, you know, just to make sure 2017 was not the “year of the token.” [READ MORE]

 


 

Dear Susan Sarandon:

November 2016

 
Now that Trump is self-destructing, I feel even those in swing states have the opportunity to vote their conscience. — Susan Sarandon
 
You were wrong.
 
You were dead f-ing wrong. And in a way, we all were. None of us saw this coming. None of us believed that a man with bankruptcies, no job experience, and no resume could possibly defeat a woman who not only had all the credentials (and then some) but had given her life to this country and to the ALL the people in it before she even applied for the job. [READ MORE]